Low Frustration Tolerance

Low frustration tolerance is when something small — like a delay, mistake, or unexpected change — suddenly feels too much to handle. It can trigger outbursts, shutdowns, or overwhelming emotion, even if the situation seems minor from the outside.

It’s not about being dramatic or immature. It’s often about how the nervous system processes stress, interruption, or unpredictability.

This experience is common in:

• ADHD
• Autism
• Trauma-related responses
• Sensory sensitivity
• Fatigue or burnout

It might show up as:

• Snapping or shutting down over a tech issue
• Feeling ragey when plans change unexpectedly
• Abandoning a task after one small mistake
• Meltdowns from “one thing too many” on a tough day

Low frustration tolerance often isn’t visible until the moment it happens — and can lead to guilt or shame afterwards. But it’s not about weakness or failure. It’s a flag that something’s running hot internally and needs space, safety, or regulation.

Recognising this pattern can help reduce self-blame and create room for more compassionate strategies — like building buffers into your day, learning your early warning signs, or making peace with imperfection.