Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria

Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) refers to the experience of feeling intense emotional pain in response to rejection — or even the idea of rejection, criticism, or disapproval.

It’s not about being “too sensitive” or overreacting. It’s about how some brains process perceived threats to connection or acceptance.

What it can feel like:

• Deep shame or embarrassment over small things
• Feeling “crushed” by criticism, even if kindly given
• A sense of worthlessness or failure from being left out
• Replaying conversations, searching for what went wrong
• Suddenly feeling unsafe or unloved — even when nothing’s changed

It can happen after:

• A short message that sounds “off”
• Not getting a reply
• Hearing “not right now” or “maybe later”
• Being teased, corrected, or misunderstood

Who experiences RSD?

Many people with ADHD, autism, or other neurodivergent traits report feeling this way — often from a young age. It’s not officially listed as a medical condition, but for those who experience it, the emotional weight is very real.

RSD is believed to be linked to how the nervous system reacts to emotional pain — especially when someone is already more attuned to social cues or has a history of being judged, misunderstood, or left out.

You’re not broken

If this sounds like you, you’re not weak. You’re not needy. Your nervous system is trying to protect you — sometimes too hard.

Understanding RSD can be a powerful first step toward self-compassion, boundary-setting, and learning how to ride out the emotional waves without losing your footing.