Unmasking

Unmasking is the process of letting go — gradually or deliberately — of behaviours someone has used to appear more “neurotypical.”

It’s often part of self-discovery or healing, especially for people who’ve masked their neurodivergent traits for years in order to:

• fit in socially
• avoid judgement or punishment
• meet expectations at work or school
• stay physically or emotionally safe

What it can look like

• Using stims openly instead of suppressing them
• Saying “no” to social events without guilt
• Speaking more directly or honestly
• Letting go of overly rehearsed behaviours or scripts
• Dressing or acting in ways that feel more natural

Unmasking isn’t about being rude or unfiltered — it’s about choosing comfort over performance, and authenticity over constant adaptation.

Why it matters

Masking can take a huge toll:

• It’s exhausting
• It can lead to anxiety, burnout, or losing a sense of self
• It often hides support needs

Unmasking can be freeing, healing — and also a bit scary. Some people choose to unmask in safe spaces first, or only with trusted people.

It’s a personal journey, and there’s no one right way to do it. What matters is feeling safe and seen while doing it.